Signs He Has Emotional Baggage

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You can’t make a relationship work with a man who has emotional baggage. You can try and try, but it will feel like trying to get blood from a stone. People with unattended emotional baggage need to put up a lot of walls and set a lot of limitations in order to keep themselves safe from facing that baggage. They aren’t free to feel all of their feelings, let alone communicate all of them. Something from their past—a romantic relationship, or perhaps their childhood—hurt them so deeply that, the prospect of healing those wounds was too much to bear. So instead of trying to heal them, they just find ways to constantly run away. They get great at avoidance. And they’re free to do that alone, but once someone who is living a life of avoidance ropes someone else into a romantic relationship, things get tricky. One emotionally open person and one with baggage just can’t be happy together (because, well, the latter isn’t happy at all). Here are signs he has emotional baggage.

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Some topics are off limits

There are certain topics he’ll never discuss, like his father, his childhood, or a past romantic relationship. When you bring them up, he becomes angry and shuts down for hours (or days). He has explicitly asked that you not talk to him about those.