Why You Should Stop Analyzing Your Relationship With Your Friends

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I’ll admit that, when I was a bit younger and I got together with my girlfriends, we mostly talked about our relationships at the time. We could fill up two hours just analyzing every little thing that had happened with our respective partners since the last time we’d seen each other. I don’t like that men think that all we talk about is them but, if they’d peeked in on one of my lunches with friends in my early twenties, well, they would have felt justified in thinking that. Now, fast forward about a decade and, my girls and I barely talk about our love lives. Almost all of my close friends are in a serious relationship, as am I, and we’ll do a quick, “How’s your boyfriend/husband?” check in at the top of the conversation, but then that’s it—it’s onto different topics. I think that’s healthy, for our friendships, and for our relationships. Here is why you should stop analyzing your relationship, with your friends, so much.

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Over-analyzing means something is wrong

First of all, if you are talking about your relationship constantly—analyzing it and picking it apart—then it may be time to face that something is very wrong with it. When you’re in a great relationship, there isn’t that much to say about it.