Signs You Should Be Single

It seems that there is such an emphasis put on being in a relationship; so much so, that you can easily feel inadequate if you prefer the single life. Sometimes you come to the conclusion that being single is best for you when you’re actually in a relationship, other times the revelation comes as you are rolling solo without regret.

If you require a little more concrete evidence for why being single is the way you should be, perhaps these signs should make the decision clear. Regardless of your relationship status, always remember that having or not having someone in your life doesn’t determine your self-worth.

You’ve Always Been In A Relationship

Some of us have been in a series of relationships for so long, that the concept of not having your other half is not only foreign, but scary. However, that is exactly why everyone should be single for a significant period of time.

In order to find out how truly strong you are, there comes a time when you need to be single to rely on your own strength without the support of a significant other. The time period depends solely on the individual, so if you decide to be single for weeks, months or years, the choice is yours.

You’ll likely be presently surprised at how different you are without being in a relationship. Your hobbies and preferences may change, as well as your overall outlook on life. Embrace the fear you have of being alone and give it a try.

You’re Still Not Over Your Ex

This is one of the main reasons why relationships don’t work. When a person gets into a new relationship while still holding on tightly to their ex, it totally ruins what could have been before it really even gets started.

Spare yourself and the other person feelings of heartbreak by avoiding getting into any new relationships until you are completely healed and completely over your ex. Even though you may be lonely and looking for something to fill the void in your life, resist the urge to couple up and instead take a significant amount of time to get to know you better.

A Relationship Doesn’t Work With Your Current Lifestyle

Whether you’re a natural free-spirit or your career requires you to constantly be on-the-go, the lifestyle you lead is a huge determining factor in whether or not you should be in a relationship.

Traveling several days out of the month for business or pleasure can make things extremely hard on the dating front and if you are not willing to alter these things, then continue to be happily single. Additionally, if settling down with one person and having children isn’t even close to where you are in your life, don’t let others make you feel guilty about it.

You’re Emotionally Unstable

Some days you’re happy being single, other days you’re a total emotional wreck filled with thoughts that you’ll die alone. If you’re emotions are all over the place and go from high to low pretty quickly, then you’re not emotionally ready to be in a relationship–something that is already very emotional anyway.

You have to address what’s going on with you before you can really share yourself and open up with someone else. It’s okay to get yourself in order because that just means you’ll be your best self when or if you decide to get into another relationship.

Relationship Commitments Scare You

Fear of commitment is common and if more people were honest with themselves about being afraid, many relationship problems would be avoided. There are a myriad of reasons why someone is scared of commitment, but what’s universal is that if you are one of those people, a relationship is not for you at the moment.

If you’re ready to share, try talking to someone to get a reasoning behind why you feel this way. It could be a professional, a family member or a trusted friend, you just need someone to act as a sounding board and give you their perspective from the outside looking in.

You Think Every Guy Is “The One”

You could be so over singlehood, that you envision every guy you date as “the one.” Not only is this unhealthy behavior, it also sets you up for a world of disappointment because you’ve put so much stock into something without taking the time to actually assess things.

While it may be hard for you to take things slow when the newness of potential love rears its head, it’s imperative that you try. Besides scaring off potential soulmates, you’re also investing too much of yourself each time you so quickly shift your entire focus from one person to the next.

You Think A Relationship Will Solve All Your Problems

Like being rich and thin, people also often think that being in a relationship will magically solve every problem you have. Spoiler alert…it won’t.

If you can’t be happy alone, chances are you won’t be happy in a relationship either. Thinking this way is a common practice among people who rely on others for their continued happiness. Happiness comes from within and you simply cannot expect that being paired up with someone is going to make you feel the happiness you’re seeking.

You Love Your Life Exactly The Way It Is

Newsflash, some people actually enjoy being single! Despite what the media, relationship experts and your loved ones say, there is nothing wrong with being single and loving it.

If you’ve spent time and energy into crafting your life exactly how you want it, there is no written rule book that states you need to be in a relationship to make things complete. You could change your mind one day or you could never change, the decision should be yours. If you are living your best life solo, by all means continue.

You Want To Avoid Heartbreak

Look, we all take the risk of getting our heart broken when being in a relationship, but if you can’t handle such an emotional feat, perhaps being single is best.

No one wants to experience heartbreak, as it can take months or even years to recover from it. Sure, some of us bounce back easier and quicker than others, but the common denominator is that dealing with heartbreak does indeed take time to recover from.

One of the best things to do if you feel this way, is to remain single or take baby steps to opening yourself up to someone new. It won’t be easy, but it’s worth a shot.

You Just Don’t Know What You Want

It takes a pretty mature person to honestly admit that they don’t know what the hell the want. If more people were this honest with themselves and others in their life, heartbreak would be significantly less.

There is no shame in not having a set direction or focus as it relates to your personal life, so don’t let others make you feel bad. You also are not on a timer and you have the ability to take as much time as you need to figure things out. Love will be there when you have given yourself the green light to pursue it.