How Living Together Changes The Wedding Planning Process

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Gettyimages.com/Happy couple using digital tablet while sitting on sofa. Man and woman are wearing casuals. They are relaxing at home.

When a couple used to plan a wedding—long, long ago—they did so from their respective, separate homes. In fact, they probably did it from their parents’ homes because that’s where they lived until they tied the knot with somebody. There were formal, scheduled meeting times to discuss the guest list, pick out flower arrangements, and talk about how the couple wanted the menu to look. Now, with so many couples cohabitating before they get married, wedding planning looks very different. Living together changes pretty much every aspect of a relationship so, it’s to be expected that it would affect one of the most stressful times of a couple’s lives: the planning of the big day. When you live together, there’s almost no escaping wedding talk. But, it also has its perks. Here is how living together changes the wedding planning process.

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It takes over your relationship

The wedding planning process can consume a relationship when the couple lives together. Just like you accidentally wind up talking about chores and errands when you live together, because you think, “We have all the time in the world to talk about other things later—we live together!”, you wind up talking about the wedding all of the time. And that time to talk about other things never comes.

You take vent calls outside

Naturally, you need to call some friends to complain about how your partner is behaving during the wedding planning process, or some of his terrible choice in music for the play list. But you live together so, you need to go for a walk to make these calls. And when you go for a walk, he knows you’re making those calls.

You always drag the other into a call

If your planner calls with you with a question or concern, you put her on speakerphone, and track down your partner to involve him in the conversation. He does the same to you. At any given moment, no matter what you’re doing (even if you’re on the toilet) you may have a phone shoved in your face.

It’s better, and worse

In many ways, living together before the wedding makes planning the actual wedding so much easier. You’re well past the phase of always playing nice around each other, so you can tell it like it is when it comes to your opinions and needs. On the other hand, you feel like you literally never get a break from wedding talk.

How living together affects planning a wedding