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In order for any type of partnership to work, both individuals in it need to be excellent listeners, they need to carry their own weight, they need to put the good of the partnership before the good of the individual, they need to be patient, they need to be willing to compromise, and they even need to occasionally carry the weight for both people when one is feeling down and exhausted. A romantic partnership is no different. I realized recently that my partner and I really are a team. When we go into any situation, I know that the decisions he makes and behaviors he exhibits will benefit both of us. I know that he always has both of us in mind when he does just about anything. And I do the same for him. It’s a pretty amazing feeling. Here are signs you and your partner really are a team.

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You don’t allow negative self-talk

If your partner tries to talk down to himself or criticize himself harshly, you put a stop to that immediately. And he does the same when you’re hard on yourself. You stop your partner from bullying himself essentially, and he does that for you.

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You energize one another

After spending extended one-on-one time with your partner, you feel energized. You feel especially ready to take on the world after returning from a romantic getaway together. Being together helps you recharge your batteries.

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You don’t keep score on chores

You have no idea who has taken out the trash, dried the dishes, or cleaned the windows more. You both just genuinely care about creating a nice, clean living environment for yourself and your partner, so you’re both always working on the place.

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You are respectful of calendars

You never RSVP for the both of you until talking to your partner. And, if he tells you that he just needs to stay in and rest one night, you respect that. You don’t force him to go to something so you have a companion.

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You remind each other of birthdays

You have each other’s backs when it comes to reminding one another of special events. You’ve reminded him more than once that it was his mom’s birthday and he’s reminded you to drop a note in the mail for your friend who just had a baby.

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You read the other person’s mood

You can intuitively feel the other person’s mood, even if they’ve only spoken a few words. You naturally adjust to accommodate it, as they do for you. You both make little changes to your energy levels to create the most pleasant atmosphere for both of you.

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You let little tantrums go

You understand that if your partner has had a terrible week and faced obstacles constantly, he might accidentally be a little short with you. You don’t get on his case about it. You know that’s not who he is. He is forgiving of you in the same way.

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You’re always ready to cheer each other up

You consider it your personal duty to cheer up your partner when he’s feeling down. You would never let him mope by himself, and just leave until he felt better. You’re a team—if he’s down, you feel down, too. So naturally, you want to cheer him up. You pamper and baby him if you must.

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You take the lead when the other cannot

When one person is just too exhausted or busy to plan the day of activities on your trip and research the restaurants and make the reservations, the other one takes charge.

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You compromise financially

If you have drastically different income levels, you are very respectful of that. The one with more money doesn’t try to pressure the other one to do things he or she cannot afford. You compromise, so everyone can feel respected and comfortable.

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You stand up for each other

If anyone tries to talk badly about your partner, you won’t stand for it. And, even if someone tries to hit on you, you consider it your responsibility to your partner to tell them to back off—even if your partner isn’t there at the moment.

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You stand up to each other

You also stand up to each other. If your partner is being unreasonable, unfair, or just wrong, you tell him. You don’t mind if it upsets him temporarily because you know it will be good for him in the long run. He does the same for you.

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You’re each other’s retreat

You feel like you are one another’s retreat from the stress of life. When you’re together, you instantly relax and feel safe. You can’t wait to come home to one another every day.

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You feel you can face anything together

There isn’t any challenge or major change you feel you two couldn’t handle together. You know that so long as you have each other, you will be happy, regardless of outside circumstances.