Is This Petty? He Has My Name Saved In His Phone In An Impersonal Way

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Do you change your partner’s name in your phone when your relationship gets serious?

If you do, you’re probably one of those people who has them saved as “Babe,” “My Love” or some kind of pet name or inside joke between the two of you. Every time they call and you see their lovey-dovey identifier, you get excited.

That’s cute and all, but if you choose not to list your significant as something other than their name, is that an issue?

On a recent episode of Married at First Sight, which is obviously not the best gauge for how to go about relationships, Boston newlyweds Shawniece and Jephte were exchanging information following their wedding. In the scene, she wanted him to save her name in his phone as “My Wife,” but Jephte, who we all now know has zero interest in trying to get closer to his “stranger” danger new wife, just wanted to save her number by her first and last name.

Shawniece tried to kick up a little bit of dust about it, but Jephte being Jephte said, “What am I supposed to put?” He told her he has to get to know her better first before he can even think of referencing her as something sentimental (let alone sleep in the same bed as her):

This concern over the way a person you’re seeing identifies you in their phone seems to bother a lot of people. For instance, a writer for Glamour once shared how she was annoyed by how impersonally a guy she once dated saved her name and number in his phone.

“I once dated a guy I’d met online, and I found out later that he had programmed me into his cell as ‘Erin Match New York journalist,'” she said. “I was almost insulted because it seemed impersonal (plus, how many Erins does he know?) but I also found it funny. At some point I asked him to change it, though. Then I thought, *Why do I care? It’s not my phone.*”

And is it a sign that your relationship is on the rocks if your significant other once had your number saved under something affectionate and then changes it to your actual first and last name? For one woman who shared her concerns in a love, marriage and motherhood thread, she was shook over it.