Relationship issues that only powerful women understand
Relationship Issues Women In Power Understand
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Of Course, powerful women can’t just enjoy being powerful. Nope. We have these little nagging traits and concerns getting in the way that powerful men just don’t seem to face like still wanting to be maternal and feeling guilty that we took that power from somebody else and hoping we don’t accidentally neglect our family, friends, and romantic relationships. AAAH! It’s so unfair. But it’s also what makes women wonderful, and why there should be more of them in power. We can be pretty damn well-rounded. Being that way takes a lot of emotional and mental energy on our part, but when we pull it off, everyone around us wins. That being said, being a powerful woman and carrying out a relationship with a, well, less-powerful man (at least in the eyes of others) can be challenging. Here are relationship issues that only powerful women understand.

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His friends can think you’re an absent partner
Most of his friends’ girlfriends and wives can always attend double date night, or the super bowl Sunday party, or the booze cruise everyone wants to go on. You manage to attend some of these events, but you’re noticeably absent a lot and you know your partners’ friends pity him. They don’t know how much work you already put into creating one-on-one time with your man. But you just don’t have extra time to spare for booze cruises with people you’re not that close to.

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You’re surrounded by powerful (intimidating) men
If you’re a powerful woman then that means you’re surrounded by powerful people and people can mean men. Any amount of jealousy that could exist in a relationship is only aggravated when your partner feels that the men igniting it are more powerful than he is. Then you have the whole “They’re better providers” worry added, too.

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You struggle to click with his friends’ partners
Look: every woman has it in her to become a powerhouse if she wants to. Some choose not to. The reality is, just statistically speaking, when you meet a new, randomly selected group of women, only a couple of them will also be high-profile, very powerful women. So, that being said, when you’re thrown into a party of your partners’ friends and their wives and girlfriends, you find it hard to find someone who shares the same experiences you do. It’s not a judgment thing—it’s just a fact.

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Almost nobody is as good at scheduling as you are
You didn’t become powerful by being unorganized or bad at keeping calendars. You are an excellent planner and you require excellent planning skills on your partner’s end. But, naturally, he falls short of your expectations from time to time when scheduling minor things like happy hour or Farmer’s market outings. You have a tendency to overreact when he makes scheduling mistakes.

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You have to socialize with a lot of men
The more powerful you are, the more people you tend to have to spend time with. You’re in high demand. You go to a lot of events. For that reason, you socialize with a lot of people and—as stated before—people can mean men. You need a very secure partner to watch you laugh, drink, and chitchat with intelligent, powerful men…weekly.
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Your mind is often preoccupied
You also didn’t become powerful by shutting your brain off, well, ever! And now that you are powerful, you have even more on your mind than ever. This can leave your partner feeling a little neglected when you’re clearly only half-listening during date night conversations.

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You can be too critical when he wavers in his career
Look, you’re kind of a boss. You’ve been incredibly decisive. You’ve made bold moves fast. You’ve been a shark out there. It can be difficult for you to remember that you’re rare in that regard and most people need a little more time to mull things over. Most people aren’t as bold as you are. Your partner can fall into that category of most people.

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You often feel guilty
Like I said at the start of this article, you can’t just enjoy your power. You’re painfully aware of the fact that your loved ones pay a price for your power. You didn’t intend for that to be the case. But they often want things from you (time, attention) that you struggle to give them, because of your position.

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His friends come to you for help
Everybody comes to you for help, hand-outs, jobs, introductions and more. You’re in power, so you can help sometimes. But it gets really awkward when your partner’s friends or family come to you for help and you just aren’t in a position to do what they ask.

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You make him look bad to his parents (apparently)
Your partner hints that having such a powerful girlfriend makes him look unsuccessful in his parent’s eyes. You don’t really know what to do about that.

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Your colleagues wonder why you’re with him
Some of your colleagues have hinted—and even blatantly stated—that things won’t work out between you and your partner because you’re more powerful than he is. Some of your peers just don’t understand what you see in him because he’s not like them.

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It’s hard to care about the plumber/dirty dishes
Sometimes, you find it very hard to participate in conversations about dirty dishes and plumbing when you have much bigger issues on your mind. Then you feel like a jerk because the dishes and plumbing aren’t anymore your partner’s problems than they are yours.

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You can be a little abrasive
Because you have had to be very upfront, straightforward and—yes—abrasive to get where you are, you can accidentally carry those traits over to your romantic relationships and frighten your partner. You have to remember to couch things and say them more lovingly sometimes.

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You have a very high motor
You operate in long spurts of high energy and infrequent, brief spurts of shutting your brain off. That means it’s hard for you to slow down when everyone else is trying to relax but when you do relax, it’s very important that nobody interrupt that. Anyways, it can be hard for your partner to sync up to your sporadic rhythms.

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It’s hard to turn your phone off
You have a lot of arguments about the fact that you’re on your phone during Christmas dinner, date night, vacation, a friend’s child’s baptism…
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